How to Decode Your Values

Maybe you have read some previous entries on discovering your core values. Although self-discovery is really great, how to we put that knowledge into action? If you don’t know where to start, look at where you spend your time.

If you say you like a clean house, how much time do you spend cleaning it? If you only clean the bathroom once every two weeks (but it doesn’t get that dirty…) then maybe you don’t value cleaning as much as you think you do. Maybe you love the idea of a clean house, but in reality you don’t really do that. See, that is a value clash. You love the idea of something but your life doesn’t reflect it. Maybe when you think of a clean house you think of some glamorous house in Architectural Digest or Better Homes and Gardens. I then ask: is this really about having a clean house, or do you really value perfection? Do you want others to think you are perfect? Do you want your house to look a certain way so when people are in it they think certain things? See, what is being clean about for you?

So ask yourself: am I ok with that clash? Or, do I really really, really want to be a clean person? If so, then get out that duster and start doing it. Don’t just like the idea of something – do it!

Likewise, if you start to map out how you spend your time, you’ll see what you value in life.